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Rule 11: No cutting through parking spaces

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This rule is pretty simple and I have seen so many drivers do it.  In a parking lot, I can’t drive through parking spaces to get across the lot.  I have to drive in the designated driving lanes and not across parking spots.

This rule is more, it is just dangerous because people don’t pay attention and you never know what may happen if you cut across the lot.

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June 5, 2011 at 10:33 PM

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Rule 10: Communist countries are off-limits to travel

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I would like to travel to China, walk the Great Wall of China or go see the pandas or the Terracotta Army.  But I have a rule of not travel to countries whose government is communism.  Maybe it is after watching Locked Up Abroad but I worry about doing something that might be considered a crime in a country whose legal system is questionable.

A while back there was this American kid in Singapore who got in trouble for chewing gum.  It is not like I am going to travel to communist countries to commit crimes but I would rather not go to jail for something that might be considered a non-issue back home.

Better safe than sorry because I am too pretty for jail.

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June 5, 2011 at 10:04 PM

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Day 14: Be a Good Steward of Opportunities

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It has been a while since my last post, not because my journey has ended but quite the opposite.  My journey with God has grown immensely.  I am so blessed by His grace.

There is a recurring theme since I took my leap of faith and changed employers some months back, a friend recently asked if I regret leaving a large corporation to go to a small local start-up.  There is no doubt in my mind that I made the right decision and no hesitation to provide an answer and an update.

Where I am today would not be possible if I hadn’t taken care of past opportunities.  From what I can gather, it all started 2 employers ago.  I had just been placed on a new client project who 4 years later would be the large corporation whom I would leave in a leap of faith moment.  That initial project would lead me down a road of incredible opportunities and making some amazing connections.

Most of the opportunities presented to me I like to think I acted correctly.  I worked hard and was kind to those around me most of the time.  I do realize at times I was not the most pleasant person to be around, I accept that fault and has promised to not repeat the mistakes as I have been given a second chance.  Other times it was the result of the environment which lead to some lapse in judgement.

In looking back, I was presented one opportunity at a time and each opportunity I tried to be a good steward.  One after another, person after person and here I am.

Every day I look at each opportunity in a different light, even if it is one I would not normally review I keep an open mind and look at it as a stepping stone.  God brought it in front of  me for a reason and I just hope I don’t screw it up and ruin my chances of the current leading to a future opportunity.

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June 4, 2011 at 8:55 PM

Rule 9: Categorize people I know

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I put people I know into friendship categories and based on this category is my interaction with said person.  I would do anything and everything I can legally to help out a friend but the degree of help is not all the same.

There is the top category, let’s call it Category A, and if you are in this category and you call me at 3am I will pick up the phone.  But if you are in the bottom category, let’s call it Category Z, and you call me at 3am, I probably won’t answer the phone.  Another way to look at the category is if you are in Category A and we discuss plans for Happy Hour, even if I don’t feel like going, I will keep the plan.  But if you are in Category Z and we make Happy Hour plans, I am likely to flake out on you because I need my alone time, it just depends on what kind of day or week I have had.

The higher category a person is in, the more of an effort I will put forth to keep up social protocol like if you ask me how I am doing, I will say more than the social convention of ‘I am fine, how are you’ or if you ask me what I did this past weekend, I will tell you what I actually did instead of ‘nothing’ or ‘ran errands’.

I am always adjusting this internal category listing.  So how many people is in this top category, not many.  I can count them in one hand and right now that number is 2 and maybe 3, presently re-evaluating this third person.

Why do I have the need to categorize people I know?  Well, it is to protect myself.  I find myself always wanting to fix a problem or help out a person.  This is not always a good idea because people lie.  I do this so I won’t feel too bad for not helping you.  I can say to myself since you have wronged me in the past then ‘no, I will not lend you money’ or ‘no, I won’t do that for you’ or ‘no, I can’t make lunch today’ or when you tell me you have a problem my answer will be ‘uh-oh’ even if I have the solution.

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February 20, 2011 at 10:17 PM

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Rule 8: Eat out once a week per meal type

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This rule came about for two reasons: 1) needed to save money cause eating out is expensive 2) lose weight.  I have this rule where I give myself an allowance to eat out once a week per meal type, which means I can eat out once for breakfast, once for lunch, and once for dinner.  I typically save it towards the end of the week as a way to celebrate the fact the weekend is here but there are just days when I need comfort food or need something more exciting than the chicken sandwich I pack for myself for lunch.

In 1996-1997 while I was working for IBM there was a Chick-fil-a nearby that I and a few coworkers frequent quite often each week.  It wasn’t long before I realized I was gaining weight faster than I can keep it off.  Not to mention the cost of each Value Meal #1, Value size with a coke equal $5.15 added up quick.

So, this rule helps me maintain a healthy weight and decent wallet.  I also find it better if I keep my lunch light otherwise nap time comes calling in the afternoons.

There may be times when it is necessary to eat out more than once in that week and it will be a case-by-case if eating out will count towards my allowance.  These could be working lunches or client meetings or dates.

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February 20, 2011 at 6:27 PM

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