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Rule 15: Perception is not reality

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During an annual performance review one year, my boss started describing how I wasn’t doing my job or how I wasn’t doing the things he would be doing if he was still a developer. The list went on and on. I countered each one of his items and it was apparent he didn’t do his research.

I really wanted to tell him it was hard for him to see for himself when he didn’t leave his nice corner office. The only thing he said was ‘perception is reality’ and it was my fault for not telling him or showing him all the things I was doing. I am not one to brag or announce the things I am doing to the entire company. It didn’t matter if I had proof and his insisted his perception was what mattered. He also wasn’t going to change his perception in light of new information.

I have always hated the ‘perception is reality’ saying and think it is an easy way out for not doing your homework. Years later I would promise myself if I am in a position of leadership I would never ever use this saying. I would take the time and investigate info the matter fully before forming an opinion.

 

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August 14, 2014 at 9:06 AM

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Rule 13: Wait at least 6 months before updating resume

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I don’t remember why I have this rule, it may be because there was a time I wanted to be private about changing jobs to keep a certain former employer from being nosey rosie.  Granted I don’t live that exciting of a life, they most likely did not care and this was just all in my head.

This rule is now about respecting the former employer and myself.  To give each party the time to heal any wounds and to make peace with the separation.  I have always felt work is like a relationship, as long as the employment is beneficial to both parties it is ok to continue the relationship but once it no longer benefits a party it is wise to move on.  With a few exceptions this has been the case during my career.

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March 28, 2013 at 9:06 PM

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Rule 12: Guests to My Home Are Not Allowed To Do Dishes

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If you are my guest, you are not allowed to do the dishes.  Regardless of who prepared dinner. Granted if I am a guest in your home you can bet I am going to do the dishes even if I made dinner.

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March 28, 2013 at 8:53 PM

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Rule 11: No cutting through parking spaces

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This rule is pretty simple and I have seen so many drivers do it.  In a parking lot, I can’t drive through parking spaces to get across the lot.  I have to drive in the designated driving lanes and not across parking spots.

This rule is more, it is just dangerous because people don’t pay attention and you never know what may happen if you cut across the lot.

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June 5, 2011 at 10:33 PM

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Rule 10: Communist countries are off-limits to travel

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I would like to travel to China, walk the Great Wall of China or go see the pandas or the Terracotta Army.  But I have a rule of not travel to countries whose government is communism.  Maybe it is after watching Locked Up Abroad but I worry about doing something that might be considered a crime in a country whose legal system is questionable.

A while back there was this American kid in Singapore who got in trouble for chewing gum.  It is not like I am going to travel to communist countries to commit crimes but I would rather not go to jail for something that might be considered a non-issue back home.

Better safe than sorry because I am too pretty for jail.

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June 5, 2011 at 10:04 PM

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